《What to Do When I'm Gone》是一本富有启发性的书籍，作者给女儿留下的信件，展现了她对生活和人际关系的见解。书中提供了许多实用的建议和策略以应对生活中的挑战。这本书适合所有年龄段的读者，是一本值得推荐的读物。
《What to Do When I'm Gone》读后感(篇一)
多数人大概都会有某个瞬间心生妈妈离世的恐惧吧？然而也都不敢再多想，再具体的想。否则就会在深夜梦见亲人离世，哭泣着从噩梦中醒来，何必呢，多想无益。我们也更加不会问妈妈如果你死了，我该怎么办。也绝少会向妈妈表白失去她的恐惧。但本书的作者Hallie在她二十二三岁时再一次感受到害怕失去母亲的恐惧时决定不再把可怕的想法抛在脑后，而是在第二天早上和妈妈（也是本书作者）一起做早餐时请妈妈写一本指导书，告诉她在母亲死后，一天天一步步如何去做的指导书。所以书中除了有对女儿生活方面的引导，还有3份详尽的妈妈食谱。
Hallie Bateman ？？？
就是这么简单
friends，we need friends
内心的吐槽
妈妈离去后，接妈妈生前用的电话么？哪里来的勇气
《What to Do When I'm Gone》读后感(篇二)
这本书躺在书橱里三年都未曾翻看，今日随意翻找准备用来杀时间，却没想到狠狠地医治了一整个上午突如其来洪水般不可克制的焦虑和痛苦，就像是跌破膝盖时突然出现的创可贴。
这本书以已故妈妈的口吻，告诉孩子如何度过余生——如何面对失去，难过，记忆闪回时心中出现的大洞，如何做菜，如何交友，如何面对婚姻中的问题，如何教自己的小孩子。
就像是泳池边空气中浮动消毒水的味道，或是傍晚家里厨房的饭菜香，整本书弥漫着一种进入便可察觉的“失去”的悲伤，但又有一种无论发生什么，总要努力move on的向往（无论是actively还是passively）。这两种完全相反的情感相互拉扯，有一种向死而生的感觉，像极了现在挣扎看不到未来的我。
读书的时候，会想到自己的母亲，会觉得现在的我面目可憎，就像是不可预测不定时就会爆炸的恶魔，对曾经关系那么好的母亲有所亏欠，她现在一定很难过吧。
也可想象，如果某一天真正失去她，我也一定会很自责现在的自己，真的很不是个东西。只是我目前的状态真的很受伤很糟，我需要先把自己的心安抚稳住，才能照料他人的情绪和需要。我希望自己可以快一点回到原来阳光的状态，多一点耐心与爱，不要再这样任性了。
接下来记录一些让我很感动的句子：
"The collective memory of a person's existence fades quickly; after a generation or two you're wiped off the face of the earth."
一切都是虚空。
"Give everything a place. Make it make sense. Life is a crapshoot. Stay calm and organized in the face of it."
"Go for a walk in the woods. Think about raccoons and bears and foxes who live and die there. They aren't the least bit worried about life's diving board, and after a while you'll get used to the idea, too.
Why go on if we all just die in the end？ There’s a great reason. If you knew you were going to live forever, imagine how much time you'd waste. Amazing things can happen when there's a deadline looming."
"Death is uncivil; thank-you notes are civil. Expressing gratitude forces you to focus on living people who care about you rather than on the enormity of your loss."
"There will be days when you can't concentrate, can't focus, can't think straight. Jump on the trampoline to get to a thousand. You still may not be able to think straight but you'll be so tired you won't care."
"Look in the mirror and see yourself the way I saw you. At time you will forget that you are amazing, and I hate that I'm not there to remind you."
"A bath is womb-like. It's warm, enfolding. Light a candle. Relax in the flickering light, the muted noises from outside. Stay in as long as you want to."
"Being in love is easy. Living together is harder. It's a learning experience, mostly about yourself."
"People tent to be selfish and may not realize how much give and take is required. They may give up too easily. How much love and effort you put into marriage is a fair indicator of its success or failure. If you quit a few years in, you might miss out on wonderful time together when you're older and wiser."
"It's worth it when you find someone who knows what you're going through and actually cares. Who knows your history and doesn't mind at all. Who knows what you are really like first thing in the morning and loves you anyway. Yes, it's risky, and yes, there are times when it's a lot of work. Take that chance."
"You'll want a quick solution, but there isn't one."
"Grief isn't the only byproduct of a death. And death isn't just subtraction. You're left with a treasure of memories that can be triggered by sights, sounds, smells -- a record of how my life enriched yours."
"You signed on for a journey. You can't know how many times the train will stop, the detours, the duration of the trip, or even the destination."
"Caring for yourself should be near the top of the list."
"Try to keep moving forward toward something -- in both your work and personal life. Not backward to something you've done before, or standing still. Imagaine that you aren't afraid of anyone or anything. Where would you go？ What would you do？"
"They'll be paying close attention when you least expect it."
"Duck-it List: Working with or for mean people; Relationships that are full of conflict; Friends who drain your life force."
《What to Do When I'm Gone》读后感(篇三)
五年前生命中最重要的姥爷去世经历了一番痛哭愤怒，五年来家里慢慢变化，没有人再去吃狗肉，没有人再抽烟，没人再叨叨我弹琴不好听、学习学傻了…
什么缺失了，又好像慢慢习惯。
但是还是觉得很难过。闻到烟味的时候有种亲切熟悉的感觉，以至于自己偷偷吸了两支烟，准确的说，点了两支烟，闻味道，独特的，醇香的，飘渺的 记忆里的味道。
也曾想过妈妈如果出了意外，那世界暗淡，人生枯燥，一切便没有任何意义。
这本小绘本还是很治愈的，被戳中：
You won't get over it but in time you'll get through it.
都会过去的。可是多么绝望孤独啊，真的会过去么？
have a good sleep
书里有详细的令人动容的菜谱，滚热飘香 营养美味，是能让人热泪盈眶的家的感觉，是要延续下去的味觉记忆
美食与爱，永不辜负
要打扫房间，让心放晴，不然生活会一团 连个袜子也找不到
I'm here as long as you remember me.
你很优秀，看镜中的你，像我这样骄傲的看着你
没人再宠你了，要宠着自己，买双舒适的鞋子
生活并不公平，可以朝它大吼，尽情摔东西，但是最后记得小心清理碎片，别伤到自己。
surprise pain
Your patent's death is nature' way of breaking the shocking news that it's your turn next.
像突入起来的跳水，淹没所有感官，在水里流泪也没关系，但是你会上岸，要呼吸，即使很痛。
the depth and duration of love and loss
代替我，让生活延续下去
signs I'm be your side.
be with the right person.
the bad patches will pass.一切都会过去
之前也和妈妈聊过，为什么要结婚呢，为什么要生孩子呢？
love is risky. yet it worth taking.
living together？ marriage？ Don't be afraid to lose
Mr.&Mrs. Right
我们活着然后死去，下一代会长大并延续下去
《What to Do When I'm Gone》读后感(篇四)
五年前生命中最重要的姥爷去世经历了一番痛哭愤怒，五年来家里慢慢变化，没有人再去吃狗肉，没有人再抽烟，没人再叨叨我弹琴不好听、学习学傻了…
什么缺失了，又好像慢慢习惯。
但是还是觉得很难过。闻到烟味的时候有种亲切熟悉的感觉，以至于自己偷偷吸了两支烟，准确的说，点了两支烟，闻味道，独特的，醇香的，飘渺的 记忆里的味道。
也曾想过妈妈如果出了意外，那世界暗淡，人生枯燥，一切便没有任何意义。
这本小绘本还是很治愈的，被戳中：
You won't get over it but in time you'll get through it.
都会过去的。可是多么绝望孤独啊，真的会过去么？
have a good sleep
书里有详细的令人动容的菜谱，滚热飘香 营养美味，是能让人热泪盈眶的家的感觉，是要延续下去的味觉记忆
美食与爱，永不辜负
要打扫房间，让心放晴，不然生活会一团 连个袜子也找不到
I'm here as long as you remember me.
你很优秀，看镜中的你，像我这样骄傲的看着你
没人再宠你了，要宠着自己，买双舒适的鞋子
生活并不公平，可以朝它大吼，尽情摔东西，但是最后记得小心清理碎片，别伤到自己。
surprise pain
Your patent's death is nature' way of breaking the shocking news that it's your turn next.
像突入起来的跳水，淹没所有感官，在水里流泪也没关系，但是你会上岸，要呼吸，即使很痛。
the depth and duration of love and loss
代替我，让生活延续下去
signs I'm be your side.
be with the right person.
the bad patches will pass.一切都会过去
之前也和妈妈聊过，为什么要结婚呢，为什么要生孩子呢？
love is risky. yet it worth taking.
living together？ marriage？ Don't be afraid to lose
Mr.&Mrs. Right
我们活着然后死去，下一代会长大并延续下去
